I can list several friendships that have ended prematurely due to hurt feelings and misplaced words. I have heard from girlfriends, and even said myself time and time again, that healthy relationships with other women are often the hardest to find and sometimes the most difficult to maintain.
Sarah Harmony-Powell and Rebecca Barth have written a Bible Study titled “It’s Just a Little Gossip…Letters of a Broken Friendship”after choosing “restoration over resentment and peace over pride”. They have painted a beautiful and engaging story of healed friendship in a raw, transparent, and authentic way. Love and understanding pours from their words and thoughts. It took great bravery and courage to be vulnerable in order that others might benefit. Their hearts’ desire is to help other women who are struggling to heal broken relationships.
Sarah and Rebecca’s reflections have made me aware of the “harmless gossip” in my life. I find myself being more mindful of my tongue and idle talk. Their words spotlight for me, in a modern illustration, these verses:
Keep your tongue from evil and your lips from speaking deceit. Turn away from evil and do good; seek peace and pursue it. (Psalm 34:13-14)
This study could be done in a women’s small group or even on your own. It is direct, to the point, easy to read, brief – yet poignant, thoughtful, and cuts to the core of the issues. Well based in Scripture, it contains thoughtful questions for personal reflection and group discussion.
The harmful gossip I speak of my children to family and/or friends, like comparing them to other children, or idly talking about mistakes they make, or discussing their failures at school. What if they overheard what I was saying about them?
The timeline presented as the reader moves through the ten chapters. It took several years for Sarah and Rebecca to mend their relationship. I appreciate that they intentionally included dates in the title of each chapter. This illustrates for the reader that healing takes time. I believe this is important for us all to realize. The Lord works slowly and purposefully through our pain and trials. We cannot rush God or ourselves along a predetermined timeline to forgiveness and healing.
The conversations these two women have with God laying out their internal struggles and pain. The format of the study allows the reader to see that through these intimate conversations with Christ, the Lord worked in mysterious ways. Therefore, neither Sarah nor Rebecca take credit for the healing. God is glorified through their testimony.
Sarah and Rebecca have begun a beautiful ministry through this book. I sense that this is only the beginning of what the Lord will do through them.
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